what if i told you / There's three sides to every story: yours, theirs and the truth is somewhere in the middle. Unless you've actively sought both sides and made a concerted effort to both gel them together, then you don't have enough to base any judgements on, because they are still only your opinions and poorly verified opinions are not facts. he who makes the least effort to do so probably has the most agendas to hide, and just forfeited judging the other person